Hmmmmmmm..............

There are so many questions in my mind about relationships. Like, why do people get married after being happily together for years, only to break up after only a few months? Is it because the paperwork changes things? Is it because one partner thought it was going to be "happily ever after" with picket fences and flowers, and when reality hit, they were thrown for a loop? Is it because they only married in order to get divorced, and "take" their partner for everything they have? Is it because one finds out after the paper is signed that the grass is greener somewhere else? Or is it just that they didn't take it as seriously as they should have from the get go? Rob and I have been together for 10 years, happily. Sometimes I think I want to get married, other times, it's the LAST thing I want. That tells me that even after 10 years, I am not ready. Sure, I would like to have his name. but why? Is it to prove to everyone that someone loves me enuff to marry me? Does it make me "acceptable"? I used to care what people thought. I was sort of embarrassed to be just "shackling up". Now, I don't care in the least what people think. It's what Rob and I think that counts. We are happy. We love each other. We are NOT married and probably never will be. Why ruin a good thing? But would it? What would change, other than my last name? We would still love each other, live together as a family, and take care of each other. Why does it seem to change things when people get married? I suppose I will never know the answers to these questions, nor will I ever understand. I just know that if one person has ANY doubts at all about this kind of committment, they shouldn't sign the paper. And if they do and find that they are not happy, get out of the situation. Don't linger, making each other miserable. Leave, before that love they once shared, turns to hate. Like I say... "cut your losses and move on". It's better to make a clean break, even if it cuts deeply, because that way, the healing can start. If you drag it out, arguing, and fighting, and being "afraid" to hurt someone, or yourself, you are only putting off the inevitable. And it takes alot longer to heal. They shouldn't be afraid to be alone, because chances are they won't be alone long, unless that's their choice. Well, that's what I think....but what do I know?